Daya Counselling Centre

Selecting a counselor can be a challenging step in the grieving process. Taking care of yourself at this time is important. Remember to trust your instincts. If you receive a referral, you do not have to choose that counsellor if s/he does not meet your needs.

Phone first to get a feel for the counsellor; or have someone you trust call for you. You can also ask someone you trust to accompany you to the first visit if you feel the need. Prepare a list of questions you have before you make the call. They may include some of the following:

• What is the counsellor’s training and experience regarding your issues?
• What type of therapy does the counsellor provide? Would it be suitable for you?
• Is there a fee? If so, how much? Is there coverage under your medical insurance plan? What is the billing procedure?
• How long is the wait list? How often might the counsellor be able to see you?
• Where is the counsellor’s office located and what are the hours of work?
• Does the counsellor consult with other professionals for peer or other supervision of the counsellors work?
• Any other questions you feel are important?

After you have met with your counsellor a few times, you may ask yourself:

• Did you feel comfortable and understood?
• Can you talk about the issues that are most important to you?
• What are your goals in counselling? Are you working together toward common goals?

Healing takes time and there may be periods where it is difficult to notice any progress, or you may feel setbacks and frustration. Progress is shown by improvement over time. You and your counsellor may be the best judges.

If your counsellor suggests medications as part of your treatment, ask your doctor:

• What effects will the medication have?
• What are the benefits… and the risks?
• What side effects may there be?

You have the right to refuse medication if you are concerned with the side effects.

What if you are concerned about what is happening in your therapy?

• Trust your instincts.
• If something does not seem right to you, talk it over with someone you trust.
• It is important not to stay with a counsellor who is not helping you or doing you harm.